intimacy
Coaching
SEX
&
RELATIONSHIPS
In Person and Online Sessions
A Little About Me
Vance is a certified somatic practitioner based in Toronto, Canada. With a passion for connection and intimacy, he works with queer people socialized as men to work through shame to be their authentic selves.
Vance started his journey as a certified yoga teacher in 2017. He found great joy in guiding people to become aware of the sensations and emotions in the body, and how to breathe through them. This passion for embodiment and eroticism also led him to explore burlesque and dance, and eventually to somatic intimacy coaching. With this full quiver of tools, Vance is now helping others find their sexuality and erotic energy in their own bodies.
As queer people we grow up with the shame of being different. This stays with us as we navigate relationships, especially with people socialized as men. Vance knows there is a huge need to work through toxic masculinity in a society that says it’s shameful for men to be emotional and sensitive.
He uses an experiential practice of somatic coaching to help other queer people be embodied as their authentic selves so they too can connect and have the best sex and connection possible.
what skills will you learn
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Vulnerability
Find the courage to open up and express your desires and needs for more fulfilling relationships
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authenticity
Learn how to truly be yourself and have others see you for who you are
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Connection
Learn tools to be more connected to yourself and deepen your connections with others
WHAT IS SOMATIC COACHING?
Somatic intimacy coaching is a form of coaching that emphasizes the mind-body connection and the role of sensation and embodiment in sexual well-being. Unlike conventional sex therapy, which may primarily focus on psychological aspects, somatic sex coaching delves into the physical and felt experiences of sexuality. The term "somatic" refers to the body, and somatic sex coaching explores how the body's sensations, movements, and awareness contribute to our connection to ourselves and the people in our lives.
When I work with clients we work on connecting to each other and staying present in our bodies. In real time we see our emotions come up, which might be our shame and trauma, and how it affects the quality of our relationships and sex lives.
We want deeper connections in our lives, such as finding a partner, or enjoying more casual sex, however we don't work on the self awareness to understanding what is preventing us from those connections. This is what I work on with clients to figure out the tools to be more authentic in our lives.
Ben
“Thanks to you and therapy, I am finally truly embracing my sexuality, owning my pleasure, and having the best sex of my life! I thank you for helping me get there.”
Ian
“Vance listened to me, asked me meaningful questions and allowed me to develop an increasing level of intimacy with myself and with him: on my time and at my pace.”
TESTIMONIALS
Michael