why i became an intimacy coach

The reason I became an intimacy coach is because I saw how much men are struggling with connection, wether that was with themselves or others. The perfectionism that has become something we praise instead of seeing it for what it is, shame. We almost worship men for being masculine, work driven, and stoic. It doesn’t matter if they are actually lonely, burnt out, and starved of real intimacy. I always wonder what our society would be like if we started to value men for letting themselves cry, having the courage to ask for support, or willing to be soft in a world that does not allow it.

I want men to feel that they don’t have to change their bodies to feel pleasure and connection. I wonder how many of us have even felt what it’s like to feel free in our movements, and the primal feeling of giving into desire and arousal. We’ve become trapped into a box of what it means to be a man. How many of us know the feeling of being overwhelmed of years of pent up pain, and to have a man hold us and tell us it’ll be okay? Did our dads or the men in our life do that, or did they tell us that boys don’t cry and suck it up, and now we don’t know how to feel safe in our emotions.

I want men to feel, to not avoid it but to move through it, as messy and difficult as it might be.