SEX WORK IS work
It’s the oldest profession in the world, yet somehow has so much stigma and misunderstanding tied to it. Sex workers have been the people who have held those that need touch, and allowed a safe place to explore the erotic. However, there is still this misconception that it’s a shady business where it’s only people who are desperate for some quick cash. In my opinion, sex workers have the capacity to hold space for other people in a way that most people can’t. It’s an amazing gift to be able to do this kind of work.
I consider my work as an intimacy coach to be sex work. I might have more boundaries than maybe a regular escort but even they have limits that need to be respected. These conversations about what is included in a worker’s services is a consent conversation, that we really need to be having more often with each other. In my work with clients, I want us both to have an arousing experience and to understand that we can do that if we stay within our boundaries. For clients who want to seek more than I can offer, I will recommend for them to go to an escort.
I’ve had friends who have told me they are having a dry spell (no sex) and need to get off. I tell them go get an escort, if they can afford it. It’s an easy way to get your needs met and you have the pick of what type of person you would like. I’ve had pushback with some saying they would never pay for sex but it’s not about if you need to pay for it. It’s paying for the convenience of the service. You need sex, here are people that offer it for a price. Easy! However, we still need to work on taking away the stigma of sex work.
A reality in life is that some people will really struggle with having intimacy with another person, for a variety of reasons. There’s a lot of trauma and shame that people don’t have the tools for dealing with. and that can make intimacy difficult. Sex workers are those people that can create a safer container for clients to express those needs and desires. My work is helping guys to see they are not dysfunctional and can be vulnerable with their shame to feel safe with being intimate with me.
Sex workers can also be a great way to get what you need. Especially if you’ve used the same person before because you know you feel comfortable with them. Again, very easy way to get your needs filled, and something to think about for those who have fears or different ideas of what sex work looks like.
